The pre-requisite to openness to life in a marriage is a self-giving spouse.
“I’d love to have more children but my husband says we’re done.” Are you complaining about the kids, the house, dumping your struggles on him as he walks through the door? Many husbands put up with more than they should when a wife nags, sulks or complains, and he may feel that adding another child will only worsen her attitude and behavior.
Or, maybe you’re mentally hanging onto that ever-so-important career you once had, and the degree you think you should be going after, or you’re continually entertaining a difference you once made in the world. Take a closer look: as an employee you are replaceable, degrees equal debt, the certificate will gather dust, and maybe you did impact a person or two in the past, but they have moved on and now so should you.
However, YOU are the only one, the only woman, who can most fully mother your child, and your days of fertility are limited. There really is freedom and the correct kind of spiritual pride in realizing that where you can make the greatest impact on other people, including your own children, is right now where you are as a mother.
Thankfully God has already fully equipped you for this position.