As a young mom I attended a regular women’s Bible study and really enjoyed it at first.
I recommended it to every stay-at-home mom I knew. It was nice to come to a place where my children were cared for while I had uninterrupted time to talk with other women, listen to a Christian speaker, do crafts, and eat. I have no doubt that this is the way the study group was started and should have been run. But after the birth of my second son, some things started bothering me. Some of the comments that went over my head before, were suddenly starting to get to me:
“I can’t WAIT until Jordan starts preschool – he’s driving me crazy!”…”I deserve my own free time – with all that I do for my family”…”My husband is getting a vasectomy for Christmas” …” I am so done having kids.”
A few years later I mentioned that I was carrying twins and then it was “Glad it’s you, not me!”… “You’re finished now, right?”… “You want more? You won’t be saying that after your twins are born!” It would have been one thing if this attitude only came from the non-Christian newcomers who wouldn’t know better, but when it was the churchgoers, the leaders and the speakers saying this, I decided my time was better spent elsewhere.
Sometimes you just need to be bold enough to make a break from some female gatherings that are in the end just excuses to whine and complain.